“Surrounded in Failure: How to be a Winner in Your Life When Everyone You Know Is a Loser”

10.   SURRENDER IS THE ESSENCE OF A HAPPY LIFE. Letting go is not giving up.   Letting go is surrendering any obsessive attachment to particular people, outcomes and situations.   Surrender means waking up or showing up every day in your life with the intention to be your best self, and to do the best you know how, without expecting life to go a certain way.   Have goals, have dreams, aspire and take purposeful action, but detach from what life must look like. Set reasonable goals for yourself. The energy of someone aspiring to create their dreams, teamed with passion and knowledge, is far more powerful and creative than someone determined to create outcomes with a blind and desperate ‘must have’ or ‘know it all’ mentality. Learn to “wait for it” and then capture the moment to use to your own plan and your advantage in life. Remember that ultimately acceptedness and Surrender will bring inner peace and joy, and unless we forget that our outer lives are a reflection of our inner s

9.   FORGIVENESS IS CHOOSING HAPPINESS OVER HURT. We do not forgive others in order to free them of the situation, burden, guilt or regret they have caused us. We forgive others to free ourselves and to walk into compassion and love by doing so.   It is in freeing ourselves that our energy level rises, our consciousness rises, and in doing so those around us benefit too.   The words of forgiveness have a positive impact on those we forgive, but ultimately forgiveness is a choice that allows us to be happy again.   This goes for both forgiveness of others and forgiveness of self. Let go of the past and live in the now.

8.   CHALLENGES ARE GIFTS FOR YOUR GROWTH. Without challenges you cannot unlock your full potential.   Obstacles are opportunities for growth.   The world needs the fullness of who you are, and it is through your experiences in life that you allow that fullness to unfold. How can you demonstrate willpower and strength if your resolve has never been tested?   How can you role model love and compassion if you have never faced the opposite?   Knowing there is a higher purpose within hard and dark times, is what leads you to be at peace in the midst of those storms, knowing that you are a chunk of coal being forged under pressure to be a shining diamond someday. Knowing that you are part of a bigger picture. Be confident and let your inner beauty radiate to all around you!

7.   EXPRESS WHO YOU ARE THROUGH YOUR OWN GIFTS AND CALLING IN LIFE You are you. The world will never see another human being like you.   There is no one on the face of the planet that has what you have.   Your own personal uniqueness, in every respect, is your gift.   Life asks one thing of you… to be the full expression of yourself so that you can leave your unique imprint on all those you encounter and upon the world.   Never underestimate the power of your energy and how it ripples outwards to affect everything and everyone around you – IF you are being your full, authentic self.   Honor your intuition and act upon all your inspirations. Control your power and influence the world that surrounds you!

6.   THE PAST AND FUTURE DON’T EXIST. Now is the moment.   The past is just a memory.   The future is a mental projection.   You can choose to dwell back in the past for learning and positive reflection.   You can choose to dwell in the future for visualization and practical planning purposes.   However, any time your awareness drifts away to the past or future frequently for negative purposes, you are suffocating your ability to thrive in the only moment you ever have… right now.   Past and future literally do not exist right now – feel the freedom in this truth.   Be all you can be and get closure from the events in your life that are holding you back from your personal happiness.

5.   YOUR BELIEFS CAN BE MODIFIED TO LIFT YOU UP. Whatever you believe to be true about yourself and life in the long-term becomes your reality.   Your beliefs are ingrained patterns of thinking that you build up over a lifetime.   They are habitual ways of processing the world around you.   If those beliefs don’t work in your favor, you can change them.   How?   In the very same way the negative beliefs formed in the first place – via repetitive thoughts that you accepted to be the truth.   Ingrain new beliefs by consciously choosing and repeating messages that lift you up. Use powerful and positive thinking to accomplish this and remember the Law of Attraction. “For as a man thinketh, so is he.”

4.   YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS. You are the witnessing essence and consciousness behind the static and the noise in your mind.   Your mind doesn’t define you, nor does it control you.   It is not who you are.   As soon as you recognize this, by watching your thoughts like an intrigued third-party observer, you will create instant distance from those thoughts and therefore no longer be identified with or enslaved by them.  

3.   “PERFECTION” IS A MAN-MADE ILLUSION. We are beautifully imperfect beings, operating in a very imperfect world, and that is just the way it is meant to be.   Constantly striving for perfection is a hollow and empty goal. It is probably the one thing that can never actually be achieved.   Society shows us doctored images of perfection constantly in marketing, media, opinions and expectations.   Do not buy into this illusion; it will only lead you into darkness.   Embrace your quirks, your flaws and the fact that life is a roller coaster at times.   Strive for excellence, have high standards… but never confuse that with the crippling behavior of perfectionism. Leave the OCD at the door!

2.   YOU WERE BORN WITH EVERYTHING YOU NEED. There is nothing you are missing!   There is no need to frantically become more, be more, do more, or get more.   You are whole and complete, and you were born gifted with every talent and insight you needed to thrive and succeed in this world. Your only job is to accept this truth and then allow it to unfold in your life.   Some gifts don’t become apparent until later in life.   Some insights only become clear to you once you have life experiences that unlock such wisdom from within you.   Trust in this and relax. Kick back and enjoy the scenery. Go for the ride.

1.   IT’S IMPOSSIBLE FOR ANYONE ELSE TO DEFINE YOU. You are indefinable.   You are the only one in this world who gets to say who you are.   Circumstances and the opinions of others can only define you if you allow them to. Do not “enroll” to their dialogue. Do not participate in their transactional games. Do not give away your own special power and the divine magic of your essence by putting weight on negative situations in your life or the negative words of other people. Be you and be good at it!

Along my own journey of self-actualization and the path to illumination and awareness, I’ve witnessed so many awesome people discover their own paths to personal understanding, success, true happiness and self-fulfillment, and I’ve noticed many common themes emerge from all of this.   In all cases, the happiness they are able to discover and gradually develop internally is seeded by the realization of certain fundamental truths. “It seems we are all here to realize these truths, in our own way, in our own time.   And once they resonate fully, not just intellectually, but emotionally and spiritually, we are then able to find the happiness and peace we seek…”

For some of us the key to these desires rings loud and clear. It drives our motivation. It fuels our determination and the love of what we do and how we do it. Still for others, these internally deep rooted yearnings and needs are buried far below the noise of our every day to day life. Below our true self or persona and our ego. Below the fear, below the social pressures and cultural norms that we face daily… and thus, even though they are the elements that will define us, even though they are the resolution to a lifetime of mysteries, questions and a means to   stop all of the uncontrollable drama and unwanted baggage, they are very rarely addressed or even explored. Life is nothing more than an adventurous journey and now is the time to prepare for the Journey of Your Life!

There comes a time in everyone’s life when the desire for knowledge and the personal understanding of life’s intricate details long to be discovered, identified and utilized for our individual needs and our purpose or life plan.   We long to and need to identify ourselves and find our place amongst the world in which we inhabit. We long to discover our gifts and release them fully into the world, and we hope to find understanding, happiness and peace along the way.  

Every day we look to find ways to better understand the meaning of our lives. It is believed that in every living soul and every living spiritual creature there exists a spark of eternity. A life spark of energy that can never die. A part of us that can never be destroyed, a small part of us that will live on forever, it is a ray of spiritual light that is connected to the metaphysical sphere of consciousness and reality. It is our unique essence and presence; it is our true spiritual self.